Friday, March 15, 2013

Forcing a Relationship



There are times when we set expectations, demands and prerequisites on relationships, and at times push and force a relationship on another person, while one of the parties is really not interested in having a relationship with a particular person in the first place.
a) If there are any expectations, they should be clarified to the person one is expecting something from in a crystal clear manner.
b) We should not fight other people's battles on their behalf. Let the parties who are involved in a conflict find their own way to each other.
c) The two parties involved have their own lessons to learn and bridges to cross... We just have to sit back, take a deep breath, stay positive and hope for the best possible outcome.
d) Often, our involvement only causes more animosity and escalates into deeper anger, creating a harsher impact to that faulty relationship, spreading poison in us as well, which turns to negativity and ill residue as it sits and brews in our stomach creating sickness and unhealthy acid.
e) People allow others to bully and intimidate them. One thing to remember: People who intimidate and bully other people are actually very insecure and needy people on the inside. They need to push and intimidate other people in order to caress their "overly inflated" ego. Bullying other people makes these often "little" people feel "bigger" and (for no reason) feel that they are better than everyone else.
Inside, they may have a good and soft heart, but on the outside although they have a "tough" exterior, in reality they are quite insecure and need to feed their "security" of other people, thus creating their own kind of defense shield.
f) I believe that one needs to deal with these kind of people from the start and not to allow things to simmer because they love to pounce on people when a sign of a first opportunity arises.
g) Some people prefer the tactic of postponing telling the truth to avoid a conflict or a confrontation out of fear of "facing" them, and therefore, would rather currently avoid with an impending problem and deal with it later. They think that they are preventing a fight or refrain from antagonizing someone and thus, are "softening the blow". In reality, they are only causing more friction and are making the matters worse by allowing even more build up of anger and animosity.
Actually, the blow is much worse and more severe when it comes later because people have already had a chance to build up certain expectations and ideas of an outcome.
h) **Building up self confidence and courage to arrive at the truth is the key. Some people like to play the victim card and make themselves out to be unfortunate people who suffer due to certain circumstances, thus using other people who feel badly and sorry for them to fight battles on their behalf. This is a wrong and an unfair tactic, as in reality these "victims" are hiding behind the facade of lack of self confidence being afraid to discover who they really are, and finally building the ability of standing up and defending themselves. Often, this achieved inner self-control, confidence and love for one-self will diffuse a fight in itself and stop it in its tracks.
Yours Truly, I.N. <3 :-)

39 comments:

  1. Yaas! another great article. Thanks | Site

    ReplyDelete
  2. Wow! This is such a great article. Thank you and keep posting more of this! contact us now

    ReplyDelete
  3. I find your article so helpful for a first time mom like me. Thanks a lot!
    Regards |www.aboutgenerators.com/

    ReplyDelete
  4. Harrah's Casino Review 2021 | Oklahoma's Premier
    Harrah's Casino in Tunica Resorts is owned 토토 사이트 홍보 게시판 by the Eastern Band of Cherokee Indians. 파라오바카라 It 1xbetmobi is located on a riverboat in 메이저사이트 추천 the 텐뱃 beautiful Tunica

    ReplyDelete
  5. Soulism has crossed the boundaries of perception, to expose the heart. What lies within is the truth of the so often experienced emotions that we feel yet never address. Check out also about Tree Service Orange County

    ReplyDelete
  6. Soulism believes that the individual is everything and his's ego is the soul, and its desires for laziness, leisure, drugs, etc. has to be fulfilled in order for a truly sane society to be achieved and this can only happen through anarchy. Check it out more here

    ReplyDelete
  7. Forced-Relationship is an intuitive idea-finding technique that goes back to the British author Charles S. Whiting. View more at https://www.charlottesvilletree.com/

    ReplyDelete
  8. Tasawwuf, also referred to as sufism in Arabic-speaking countries, is an Islamic mysticism that places a strong emphasis on introspection and a personal relationship with God. While it is occasionally mistaken for a sect of Islam, it is actually a more inclusive form of religion that turns the focus of its adherents inward. Check out more info here.

    ReplyDelete
  9. Your sharing in the article is very meaningful, the content is very rich and contains good things. www.insulationcoquitlam.com

    ReplyDelete
  10. I know this is quality based blogs along with other stuff. Roofing Shingles

    ReplyDelete
  11. Thanks! I love seeing post that understand the value of providing a quality resource for free. https://www.concreteoakville.com

    ReplyDelete
  12. Remember that relationships are a two way street, you can't force anyone to have a relation with you if they don't want to. I really liked all the points you touched here and think this is a great post that a lot of people should see in order to manage the way the form relationships with other people. I would like to recommend you the best wallpaper store in phoenix

    ReplyDelete
  13. I know this is a quality-based blog along with other stuff. check it out

    ReplyDelete
  14. I am so grateful to have found this post. It is so well-explained. call us

    ReplyDelete
  15. Forcing a relationship means you are making someone love you against their will. Love is not by force and is best enjoyed when the two partners are on the same page. It's normal to seek ways on how to make yourself fall in love with someone visit site

    ReplyDelete
  16. I decided to check this blog again because it has so many great articles that can help a lot of people improve their home life and interactions with their family! I'll be sure to recommend it to the people from my favorite hvac gainesville fl in case anyone there needs it!

    ReplyDelete
  17. I'd love to share this with my friends, thanks for sharing! Siding Installation

    ReplyDelete
  18. It's normal to seek ways on how to make yourself fall in love with someone. Similarly, you can make yourself love someone in different ways.

    URL: https://www.tulsahvac.net/

    ReplyDelete
  19. Another common reason mothers and daughters give to explain why they are not getting along is their differing or similar personality traits.

    website: https://welldressedevents.com/

    ReplyDelete
  20. Thanks for sharing this article ! it's really useful
    Tree Removal

    ReplyDelete
  21. Great! I am so thankful for your blog post. Siding Services

    ReplyDelete
  22. This is my first time visit here. From the tremendous measures of comments on your articles. I deduce I am not only one having all the fulfillment legitimately here!

    So if you need the help of professional concrete contractor, you can see them at Concrete Harrisonburg VA

    ReplyDelete
  23. The good thing about drywall is that it is simple to maintain, repair, and install. Drywall Installation Services Richmond, BC

    ReplyDelete
  24. Thanks for sharing this information. I have shared this link with others keep posting such information.

    Look for more Spokane Tree Care Service

    ReplyDelete
  25. Great post! Thanks for sharing this awesome article.
    Concrete Edmonton

    ReplyDelete
  26. Remember, building a strong and healthy mother-daughter relationship is an ongoing process that requires patience, understanding, and effort from both sides. It's important to approach the journey with an open heart and a willingness to grow and learn together.

    Come visit us at Durham Artificial Grass

    ReplyDelete
  27. I appreciate the effort put into this research. Custom Drywall Designs

    ReplyDelete
  28. An unbelievable blog. This blog will indisputably be definitely recommended to my friends as well.

    Find the best local Commercial Tree Service

    ReplyDelete
  29. I really loved it and thank you very much for sharing this with us.Great site with an awesome post. Thanks for sharing.
    Plastic Surgery Plano

    ReplyDelete